Monday, July 24, 2006
Last saturday, i went to settlers cafe with my cell and about 3 other cells from my zone. i heard they booked the whole place. settlers is somewhere in holland village. its a cafe, but has more than just food and drinks. they have lots of board games/table games you can choose and play at the table.
we sure had fun!
Then, few of us headed for expo. it was the first lesson of the marriage series that pastor would be teaching over the next 6 weekends or so.
1. What really is Marriage
2. The Couple's Role
3. The Wife
4. The Husband
5. In-laws, Not Outlaws
6. You are Sexual - Rejoice!
7. Marriage, Money and Mortgage
8. The Marital Pyramid
9. Communications: The Key to Marriage
10. Anger Management
11. How to fight Fair?
12 How Men and Women are Different
13. Affair-proof your Marriage
14. Intimacy & Keeping the Romance Strong
sounds cool huh? well, i certainly learnt alot from it. to those people out there who are in relationships, it's really good for you too! haha. you see, pastor cares for us so much that even before most of us are even married or attached, he already wants to teach us about it. haha.
Personal thoughts:
sometimes you look at the people around you. the kind of problems they're having, selfishness in one partner then the other, coldness to one another after sometime, not understanding the proper way to communicate, any many more.
i mean thats life yea, it happens. but isnt there a better way? isn't there a way to stop it? or at least reduce it? maybe by learning and understanding better? but how can you understand if you don't know about it?
sometimes its scary to think, even when in a bgr, things are already so bad. how much worse will it be after marriage?
the wedding and honeymoon might last for few days to few months. but its a whole life we're talking about here. hello~
that's why i think its so important to choose the right person. of course, nobody's perfect, but still, more than just chemistry, and romance, the person has to have the right attitude and character to be able to work towards a successful life together ahead.
and that would mean that the person i'd choose would already be from my church. because i know, in chc is where people's lives are shaped and moulded, and only people who are serious in having their lives, attitudes and characters changed will be there for a long time.
and of course, i have to be comparable too before i can expect so much right. thats why i'm in church too! haha
thats not why i always want to bring people to church. haha. its because i know theres a better way(despite whatever people might say about having any other way as the same), and i've personally experienced and know it, and i truly care for these people enough to share it with them too. still, it's their choice at then end right? i can only do so much, and if they think at any point in time i'm being too much(i try my best not to), and they draw back, i will have no choice but to sadly let them go.still i will return when there's another chance, because i still love them.
i'm not that all of a God-fanatic or Christian-fanatic really. haha. i still live life like a human, just that i have known God, He's changed me, and thus love Him, and He's special to me.
haha. it all started with this marriage thing, and i ended up typing so much! haha.
how is this post of insight into my life? i wonder who has enough patience to read through this post. i know of some who will study it word by word anyways! lol.
You won! 7:56 PM
